A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Thank you very much for your input VS. I read up on your thread and found comfort and hope in it. It always help to hear from someone who has come out the other side of this journey with a positive outcome. It gives hope to us all.

I don't blame you for not catching up on my whole sitch. I've stopped bothering linking it to my new threads any more because so much has changed since the beginning. To summarise it as quick as I can, my W left me in early January but it hadn't been right for a few months before that. Her parents set her up in a house more for my son than for her. I wouldn't like to see my Wee Man stuck in an awful house so I agreed with them on getting her the house. At the end of the day, if she comes back to me I want it to be for the right reasons. Not just because she's struggling in sub-standard accommodation. Things were awkward at first but after speaking to DB coaches I managed to remove the awkwardness and get us comfortable together if nothing else. I went as dark as I could but with a young son it was impossible to go completely dark. We only have 5 minute interactions when picking up/dropping off Wee Man. As far as I know there's nobody else involved yet.

So that brings me to PM's plan. I was meaning to reply to her anyway that I thought it was a great idea. I intend to try it out this weekend when I go to visit Wee Man. I intend to do it that early because I don't want her to go arranging something else first.

I do hope I can find this key you refer to but my W is an incredibly stubborn woman and I think it's going to take a lot of time to get through to her. Like you say in your thread, it's all about patience, patience, patience. I'm learning more all the time but I won't say it isn't a struggle. Thank you for giving me an extra bit of belief though VS. It means a lot.

Kev