I have been here for over a year now. The A has been going on for 18 months, I found out 15 months ago. Not so new, SIGH.
I have moved forward for me and the kids. I think some of it is easier for me as my husband is active duty military and his career requires him to be gone for long periods of time.
My DH is very responsible with the money--all the bills are paid and I get an additional $1K a month or so for the kids' and I expenses. I do not really work. I babysit my great nephew for $100 a week. I am a full time college student and stay at home mom. Ironically, my husband encouraged me to go back to school to become a lawyer and my chosen specialty is Family Law.
There are actually more negatives for me if a divorce goes through, at least initially. I am entitled to a portion of his retirement and it goes up every year. All of our medical is paid for. most of the credit is in his name alone, with only one joint card. I have some small ones of my own that I am working on paying down and off.
DH's affair has been exposed to friends and family. To expose further (ie work) would hurt his career and by extension, the kids and I financially. By the same token, he knows I will go to the command if he tries to screw me on money, so it is a safety that I hang onto dearly.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
