I second that (getting your perspective Kittyfish). I think I interpret DB principles as helping communicate change and willingness to change in an effective way, which perhaps carries the message of wanting to meet the WAS's needs and being ready to listen and understand with empathy. Things that were usually missing and caused the split in the first place.
Yeah...and helping you to become a better and stronger person...period. These changes might, or might not, help you to save your marriage. If they do...great, if they don't...you've still made changes that were necessary for you to become a better and stronger person.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
