If your WAS would agree...

[The Wifey]

And in my opinion, I've had much more luck with the Newcomer's forum. Maybe its because it is where my friends are, where I'm followed. I tried the separated, but some people were way to quick to swing 2x4's rather than offer truly helpful advice.

Just my OPINION and experience from last fall. Not a slam on anyone currently in that forum.

And definitely, post to others. Offering support to other people helps you. And the people you post to then seek out your thread.