Gonna Get Me A Mojo Hand

[AlexEN]

if I were to answer: "Some friends," she would press the issue.

Boundaries.

"Hey hon -- back when you were my wife, that was just the kind of thing you had a right to know."

Ah, easier said than done, as it involves moving deeply into that gray area... She is at one end of the scale "we're psychologically separated", and I'm at the other... "well, okay, but we are still married," so in that paradigm, it's hard for me not to be truthful... What is "blocking" me from answering that way, I think, is "feeling" that it means I accept her premise... Which, perhaps I have to...

A&K, there is a significant double-standard in our sitch, not just with respect to this matter, but others; pre-bomb, I typically would not have pressed her (though that streak was broken when affair(s) came to light and when any resistance was no longer seen as a need for privacy, but rather a possible cover-up). We never got to the stage of full-transparency and non-contact to see we could get back to a place of normalcy where each of us could honor each other's need for some privacy.