Thanks so much Wifey and Burt,

I will read the WA postings, it seems unfair that they have all the power right now. But maybe most of them are in as much pain and confusion as we are.

H did come over yesterday to begin the moveout process. It seemed to go okay. We went out for lunch, (my suggestion, probably seemed like pursuit to him). But it was pleasant. We then moved a few loads over. Later that evening he became a little irritated because I asked to look at his new Blackberry. He thought I just wanted to be snoopy. I need to be busy, PMA, and into GAL when he is here. I was backsliding a little.

He stayed slept on the couch overnight. This morning he's been acting like he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I did make a huge mistake: I asked him if he would put or marriage photo back on his FB in a couple weeks when he feels comfortable about it. I know that was way too controlling and pressuring for me! frown I need to stop behaving that way when I'm around him. So he's over at his new place, (6 month lease) dropping off a load. I asked him if he needed help with it. He said no. I even asked him if he still loves me, how pathetic of me! He just looked at me and said "What do you think, I haven't been laying next to you and snuggling the last couple weeks." So I'm going to be gone when he gets back. I haven't been doing the 180's and giving him as much space as he needs.

It's interesting, when I read about the 180s and GAL, I think to myself how easy that sounds. Sure , I can do that. And I read about other people backsliding and I think, man, I never would have done that. But here I am making the same kind of mistakes. I have a lot of work to do.

Should I ask for the extra set of my house keys that he has?

Me 40
H 43
T 4 years
M 9 months
He left on 5/17/09
Stepson 9