You are getting great advice. The information you just discovered is hard. Brutal. I got the same kick in the gut several times.
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She suggested I take the rest of the week while they are away and let it all soak in...avoid contact with my wife...stay busy..GAL.
I wouldn't necessarily avoid contact with your wife, it could cause this to escalate. But I would avoid this subject. Wait until she comes home.
She could very well believe this is a kindred soul and nothing more. Not realizing the emotional connection that is forming. It doesn't excuse her behavior, but it's how she's justifying that. Trying to get her to see your side of this, right now, is pissing in the wind. This is filling a need for her and she can't see beyond it. IMHO.
It may also be time to stop snooping. You know what you know and more information is just going to hurt you right now. Give yourself time to get centered now and see what your gut tells you. Or maybe you know what your gut is saying and need time to process that. You know your truth.
Make no decisions at this moment. You don't have to. Try not to put any further spin on this information, it is what it is. Be kind to yourself.
