Gonna Get Me A Mojo Hand

[Thinker]

I need to adopt some "lunches" into my play book and get more mysterious...

The "mysterious" part doesn't work in my sitch. Every time I go out (GAL) I get a very direct question from my W - "Who did you have lunch with?". It's asked in a very friendly way, but there is no way for me to remain mysterious without lying or just plain refusing to answer.

Thinker, my W like yours... And, if I were to answer: "Some friends," she would press the issue...

Just curious. Does this work both ways? I mean do you want, expect or get that full disclosure from your wives? I think it is reasonable in SOME sitches to straight out suggest that you give each other some privacy and since they presumably want "space" you would like to honor that and have it reciprocated.

It actually does not work both ways - and I have called my W on it several times. Maybe it has to do with our history, but she want's her privacy and does not want to talk to me about which of her friends she is meeting with and when. She tells me if I press her, but does not volunteer it and gets a bit annoyed if I ask.

Part of it has to do with her wanting her privacy more than I do.

Part of it probably also has to do with the fact that she meets with a lot more people than I do - out meeting friends, playdates, coffee hours, etc - while I am working from my home office. So my going out is a more unusual event.