Trapt - I think you are right on track. I went through the anger stage too. It is all part of losing a tremendous amount of finances and time with the kids.
All I can really recommend is that you learn to treat interactions with your X as a business transaction and with what is in the kids best interest.
It is a great time to refinance a house. At least it was for me since I was able to pay off all of the division of assets and spousal support in one lump sum. Winner Winner Chicken Dinner!
I'm still trying to finish up the last little details of the divorce and it has been 6 months since it was official. I still need to pay the final portion retirement with a cash, but she is not ever wanting to meet to sign off on it. She also has been pressing to ammend the judgment to say specifics about who pays what in the kids extracurriculars. If I detect that it is starting to rile me up, I tell myself to calm down and that the ball is in her court. If she wants to continue to use an L, that is her choice and she must know that is costly.
