Hi KK and 25..my honest take on this...the desire to take her kids to her cousin's party is real. However, it was foisted on me with little warning and without asking me...TOLD me that she was going to take them on my only full day with them, Saturday.

She refused to let my D6 go FOR ONE HOUR to her assistant coach's daughter's BD so that she could take her to the BD party OF MY FRIEND AND COLLEAGUE...that party is 1-4....the prior one was 12-2. D6 could have gone to the other one for an hour. BTW...that colleague is the one whose W died of breast cancer that kicked off my STBXW's bomb in May '06. Whether right or wrong, I had approached him months ago telling him that I am uncomfortable attending events at his house if my STBXW was going to attend. I requested that he send invitations to my office, which he did a few weeks ago. This time, he mailed it to the house and STBXW 'hid it' and RSVP'd since it was on Sunday. So...my good friend and colleague is hosting my STBXW at HIS house...to enjoy a day there....in spite of my telling him of what she is doing to me. It's a problem....for me...and one of those classic divorce story/friendship loss issues.

Anyway she refused. She refused Citifield and refused her teammates BD party...BUT DEMANDS I give up my day for a cousin's BD party WHILE SHE IS AT WORK.

It's very easy....SELFISH, manipulative and using the kids. Honest. Not only that...I left her a note yesterday that...in SPITE of all that..if she was willing to work with me and cede some time on Sunday, I would try and do the same on Saturday.

No response. She also threatened me with taking them from me for half a day on FATHER'S DAY. As you all know, that is against family law here. Kids with dad on FD...kids with mom on MD. She threatened to take them on FD.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;