1- It is particularly important that she was let go because of EA. This paints it in a much different light for her than if it remained secret and she was caught up in all of the endorphines involved.
2- She agree to go to MC.
Butterfly wings refers to the mention that the flap of butterfly wings on one side of the world can result in a hurricane on the other side of the world.
As to your questions: 1. You can say I love you - only after a good interaction and not after a bad one. This associates the ILY with the positive instead of the bad. Use this sparingly.
2. Touch is touchy. You can graze her hand or arm when you pass her something. Gage how she reacts before you do any other touching. Don't go overboard and use sparingly.
3. Maybe. Is she comfortable with you there? Of course, if you have plans that would be GAL, which is VERY good for your own growth.
4. She is hesitant to do them because she doesn't yet believe they are going to make a difference. Suggest them unless she resists. If she will do them at your suggestion, be happy with that, but don't over-react.
5. Why do you have to ask for these things? Action, not words, are a better idea. Read the 5 love languages. What is her love language? Figure this out and do what she needs.
I recommend Marriage Fitness by Mort Fertel.
Be very gentle in what you suggest. Don't push. If she resists back off. If she agrees don't act like and excited puppy.
Read DR several times, you will see new information every time you do.
Strap in, this is a wild ride.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
