I like this summary of the four stages. Honestly don't know what some of the phrases in stages 2 and 3 mean, didn't realize I was there when I got there. Need to brush up and re-read the book.


1. Reducing negative emotions
LRT (if needed)
ACT as IF
Avoid Cheeseless Tunnels
2. Reestablishing a relationship (friendship)
Real Giving
Communication skills (Change Anything, The medium is the message, better done than said...etc)
3. Realignment of romance
If it Works, Don't Fix it
Change Anything
Do a 180
4. Recommitment
Keeping the Changes Going

Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK