Today I put on a sexy work outfit, perfume, just had my hair done with highlights and wore some killer dressy shoes. I've lost 25 lbs. since the bomb and today noticed that I lost 2 more lbs. Surely he's noticed. It has really boosted my self-esteem. H came to my office to see me b/c he was nearby for his work anyway, so I made sure that I looked my best. I think he noticed. Maybe the affair fogs are lifting?
Oh trust me, he's noticed. I'm a guy -- I know.
The problem is, as long as OW and he are in contact, he will continue to waffle back and forth, and he will be much more (entirely?) shut off to you emotionally. That's why 100% no-contact, backed by full and voluntary transparency, is so important.
Puppy
Puppy--
Do they really notice? Heck-I have lost the equivalent of our 9 y/o, I went from dark auburn to a strawberry blonde with blonde highlights, and wear my contacts all the time now. My clothes fit great, I look great. As a matter of fact, my attitude conveys it. I was going out last night while he was here and I got in the car thinking--"you foolish foolish man, you have no idea what you are letting go of!" It would be nice to know he DOES notice it once and a while. I know everyone else around me does.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I'm a guy -- I know.
