I think it's wonderful for that you are happy and content with your life. I know you miss your W and have strong feelings for her, but it seems like you have found peace and contentment with what you have and that's what most people need to strive for (even in general within their lives) so you are ahead.

Are the boys getting used to the routine? I think your emotional strength probably helps them enormously. It's definitely great role modeling for how to deal with difficult times.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.