Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

I am with you Antlers there. May sound sad but I know at some point in the future I want to be with someone again (her or someone else). And I do not want to repeat the mistakes of the past...so I have to make sure I recognize them now.

And hope I don't make a whole other set of mistakes later.

She was special but sometimes I wonder if this wasn't enevitable. I don't like some of the things I let slip up on us but I also look back and don't see a whole lot of places where she stepped in to fix anything either.

So I focus on me and what I can fix or change about myself...because the one thing that she said that rings painfully true is that I am not the same guy I use to be. Some of that had to happen. You don't stay the same crazy fly by the seat of your pants person once you have kids... but the pendulum swung way too far to the other side for me to like it.

if you know what I mean. And yes I feel the same way you do and totally feel your frustration in the "day late dollar short" story line.

we can only do our best..

Hi Kenn.

We're learning and we're getting better. I want to be with her too. If not, then maybe someone else on down the line.

I think we've learned, and I don't think we'll be making any real big mistakes anymore. Little ones maybe...but not the caliber that we've made in the past.

Mine was special too.

Focusing on ourselves and fixing us is all we can do!

Yeah...

We're doing our best now. We can't change the past. We can only apologize, try to make amends, try to learn from our mistakes, and resolve to never be that way again.