Thinker, Just remembered something else. If it was something I wanted, I made it a goal to get my W to initiate it. Ask me to dinner, meet somewhere, touch me etc..... Made me step up my thinking a notch and become more aware.
Another thing to get more involved in "seeing" things is to become more sensual - involve all your senses and then make sure you are engaging your W using all her senses. Become more aware of smells, how things feel, tastes, sights, and sounds. Take the autopilot off.
Cheers


M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.