You should absolutely expect the support. This is your compensation for giving up your career and growth opportunities in order to support H and your kids during the past years. H is now obligated to support the kids, and to support you while you work to become independent.
SP's point was that at the same time, your H will probably be ugly about it, and try to make you feel that you are being unfair, unjust, selfish, etc etc. You have to accept that. He won't change. If his response makes you feel bad, guilty, selfish, etc, then that is your problem to solve for yourself. Don't wait for him to change his attitude before you feel OK about demanding the support.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
