Hello all.....haven't been here in a while

[mishka422]

(((((((Kris))))))))

This is by far one of the hardest traumas to get through. You will never forget your brother, but the pain will fade in time just like the pain of the D has. There needs to be something for you to center yourself on in order to deal with the hurt without spinning. Do you belong to a church? Is there a Griefshare group in your area? Spending time healing is just as necessary when there is a death as it is when there is a D. Give yourself time and don't expect too much from yourself. One day at a time, one foot in front of another.

Regarding your xh......he's your ex for a reason. He is no longer involved in your life, he doesn't care anymore. Your life is not intertwined with his. You are having expectations of a man that is not involved with you any longer. The past R can not carry over to the present. Have no expectations of him at all. Treat him like a stranger, not a friend or lover.