That's cuz you're a guy who thrives in Life's greys, SP. I envy you in a lot of ways, as God wired me more as a black-and-white guy. There's a whole lot of living in those grey areas, if you can learn to get your head (and heart!) into those spaces.
I just can't.
Puppy
I have been there as well. Grew up in a dysfunctional home with lots of rules (especially unwritten rules), went to college at The Citadel, went into Air Force into B-52 SAC World (rules for rules), then I went in the financial advisory business - lots of rules but people don't buy on rules it's based on their heart. Rules, black and white thinking limit us. Rules, B&W thinking cause us to want to keep score, become defensive (yeah buts...) and eventually depressed. What happens if you find out you were using old rules or rules that don't apply to the sitch at hand? Marriage, relationships and love have wide, moving and ever increasing boundaries when it's healthy. Einstein quotes:"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." "Imagination is more important than knowledge." "A person starts to live when he can live outside himself."
I don't believe the B&W thinking is good for Coach at this point in my life. The two rules I go by now are: “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your being, with all your strength, and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.”
It's right there in black and white. That is full of color, boundless, healthy, fun, interesting, challenging and up to me. I think God wired me to explore that space. Didn't always think that way. Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
