In his case, OM married her. They have been married six years. So, not always is the OP using the affair partner. Sometimes yes but some of these relationships do work out.
Yeah I have a friend who was a wayward who has been married several years now and has a child with her OP. I've seen them work out, but somehow I don't think that will apply in the situation I'm looking at.
Either way - I don't intend to lose sleep over it. I hope she is happy with her life. I just want D1.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
D1 was doing well this morning. I poked my head in the door and called her name and she smiled and giggled... then went to playing with her friends and pretending like she was ignoring me. I say pretending because as soon as I stand up to leave she starts running across the room to me with her arms held up crying wanting me to hold her.
I held her for a bit, and played with her and the other little ones. She gets a kick out of the fact that balls can bounce, so I was dribbling a couple of balls and she runs up and gets me to hand her one, which she holds over her head and then throws.
I was able to sneak outside when she wasn't paying attention and she was fine until one of the daycare workers opened the door to let in another child, then I heard "DA DA DA DA" and crying.
So what else is new with me? Preparing my attorney with questions for W's deposition (assuming she will show up), keeping busy with work, and making sure the boys are doing well.
The only contact I have with W is 3-5 text messages during the week where I check on D1, and 10-15 minutes total each Saturday during exchanges of D1. She has shown zero indication of moving back towards the M... if anything she seems more concerned about her reputation and relationship with OM and I doubt he even knows anything about what she's facing and I'm sure he'll be perplexed if/when she loses custody.
I'm not expecting her to show for her deposition. If she just stops participating in the D I'm going to go ahead and go through with it, get what I want as far as custody, then let her hit rock bottom on her own.
The only thing I'm fighting now is the urge to tell her I'm moving on... I just think I'll continue letting my actions speak on that.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Yeah, they need an upgrade in general. When it comes to user-friendliness, robustness and creativity in general, this site has just LEAPED into the 90s, hasn't it??
Ahhh, gotcha. Do keep us updated! I'm dying to know how it goes.
Oh you know I will.
I'm in the midst of preparing questions while copying some files. I've taken a page from the book of BPD crazy and setting up a good Kobayashi Maru no-win scenario for her. Whether she shows or not I'm guaranteed to get some hits in.
I know I'd hate to face me...
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
