I actually just re-read my last two post and they seem to conflict with each other relative to my hope of saving my marriage. I just wanted to clarify.

I do want my wife back, but am not hopeful that will happen. The closest analogy I can make is like winning the lottery. I do hope to win, but I will not be planning my future based on winning it. That doesn't mean that I'm not going to play.

I will do all the things to make a better future for me and the boys. If I attract my wife back while doing so, that will truly be like winning the lottery for me and the boys. If I don't, we will still be ok.

Does that make sense? Or is it not committed enough so my wife may detect some uncertainty/lack of commitment?

Me 41
WAW 36
S 3&7
M 10 yrs
W files D 1/9/09
W moves out 4/18
Lost job 6/15
New job 7/27
Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!)
Confronted 8/11
Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11
Lost Job 11/13