I expressed this to her while driving to town for the fieldtrip and it was not very well received, I just said that I wasn't sure that I could do it.
Backslides happen, guy; don't let it get you down. Put it away. It happened. Nothing you can do about it. Just move forward. Every one of us, male and female alike, has been there.
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I was thinking that the longer I could get her to stay in the house the better my chances would be.
And that instinct is basically right, so long as you Do The Work and Work On You. Doesn't mean you'll stop the Divorce Train, but you'll have a better shot at it. I'm living proof. Train's still departing the station, but maybe the engineer's thinking of a different route.... @ForrestGump needs to check in with you.
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told W that I was sorry but I just couldn't let her stay while she went to school, I just can't look at her face every day for the next year knowing the way she feels(ILYBINILWY).
The writer Ambrose Bierce once said, "Speak from anger and you will make the best speech you'll ever regret." The Buddha observed you will not be punished for your anger but be punished by it.
Okay, that was probably not the best move. But you can't undo it. So let it sit for 24. Then -- concisely -- tell WAW that you were speaking out of sadness and anger, you're actually pleased she's in the house because it's good for the kids, and you just want the situation to be healthy for them. So if she needs to be in the house to get situated, you'll suck it up for the good of the Family Unit -- which you'll be, no matter what happens between the two of you.
Doesn't matter if you don't feel that way. Doesn't matter if your words aren't "real." Fake It Till You Make It.
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Perhaps some loneliness will help her snap out of the whole "I don't have anything left to give" routine.
It definitely could. But she can feel that loneliness in the house, if she sees you "moving on."
