PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[PositivelyMommy]

Oh FF, I hear a lot of anger in your post. I know you are be hurting BIG TIME. I know where you are coming from. We kinda hold a MIL's on a higher moral ground because they are women and are supposed to understand how women feel. (In fact, my FIL did exactly the same thing to her when H was little, left her to be with OW). So we kinda hope that MIL would understand us and if not take our side, at least, be a voice of reason for H's and a moral compass for them in their fogged out state.

But alas not, they are motivated by their own reasons, not ours. That's what hurts.

So I sent another e-mail off the MIL. This time I said a lot of kind things about her (after reading FF's post I realize things could be a WHOLE LOT worse). And basically said that I wish not to discuss this topic anymore but she is welcome to call kids anytime and for H to take kids to see her.
I hope she finally gets the message and is not thinking she can talk reason into my thinking.

I now know how H must have felt when I tried to reason with him about staying in the M. They more she talked, the less inclined I was to listen. I guess that's why DB says to not talk, not beg, not plea. It won't work, in fact, it would have the opposite effect.

I am glad I have been basically staying with the DB principals, at least I hope he doesn't find me annoying and not listening to him. And I can leave this M with some dignity and self-respect.