Yeah, don't file on your bday. Get it overwith and done and try and put it past you. I remember having to sign my final papers. I put it off for weeks and finally I thought...why? Its not going to make a difference and if exh and I were going to get back together we could get remarried..(excuse me while I barf as I thought that would happen). Blindsided, show your H you are ok. Show him you are strong. Keep going with the CS and on with your life. Sometimes when I am down I think of how strong you are.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!