Welcome to the roller coaster - think we all know that too well.
My WAW sometimes seems very happy and interested to talk to me, and at other times, distant and cold (like texting me when I am out of town with S and saying "when can I call...I want to toalk to S."). Hurts, but I don't react.
My C says for me to "drag my feet" when it comes to talk about the D. He feels the more time I can hang in there and W not bring up D, that is a positive. Time as the healer?
I honestly do not think the WAS knows what they want - my W has told me she does not understand some of (the part she does not blame me for) why she feels the way she does towards me.