H cannot see or think clearly about their "friendship" right now.
When I first came to this site someone told me that the feeling in an EA is almost like a drug, and the normal behavior and thinking process that you would previously asssociate with your H are just "out the window". That was my experience...my H turned into a complete Alien, the things that he did during that period completely floored me. Interestingly, when some of that stuff now comes up in conversation he has no memory of it at all! Truthfully!
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After meeting her in person, I'm more convinced than ever that she should not be in the mental health profession. She was with her husband smiling one minute and the next flirting with other men. I watched her from a distance and it disgusted me. A person like that with unclear relationship boundaries is in no position to help other vulnerable people. She'll just continue to exploit them.
Oh man, you've nailed our OW right on the head! I also respected and trusted her. It about drove me crazy wondering how she could do this thing. Then one day I began to read about the behaviors of a sociopath. BINGO! She exhibits 16 out of 20 traits. It was pretty interesting, and immediately released me from wondering how she was able to do this to me. It also made it very easy for me to expose her.
I also wanted to mention that it sounds like you and your H have been thru some major, life changing events... you may want to read up on MLC. Lots of good articles here and out on the web.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
