thank you for your advice.

right now, i am not looking to say much of anything in terms of boundaries and enforcing things.

everything changed last week and he left.

i will only say something if i see or feel he is looking to return or work things out.

i have to see how the next few days/ weeks play out.

in the meantime, i will try to focus on myself and my son, refrain from texting/calling and lay low.

if i do see a continued change in him, showing more interest again, i will take it from there and say what needs to be said.

i do feel that i need to move on, but my feelings for him always hold me back.

i know im not getting younger, i will be 31 on friday and cannot keep my life on hold any longer, and what i mean by that, is that i want more children and want a normal marriage, i cant keep waiting for him and taking him back and watching him go again.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09