I've just found this thread of yours and have to admit that I'm very impressed with the advice you've been giving Stuck. I can see a lot of my own sitch in his and find comfort in your advice.
I don't know if you've kept up with my thread recently but in general I feel like I've now come up against a barrier. I think the initial discomfort and animosity has gone. We no longer discuss the R in any way at all. My W seems to be very comfortable with her life in her new house with our son. I get him over to stay every Tuesday and Wednesday night and every other weekend.
I think I'm succedding fairly well in my efforts to GAL. I have many great friends around me and have taken up a multitude of hobbies. I mountain bike with friends as often as I can now and I've taken up running. I never used to be able to run at all last year but am now in training for my first half-marathon in August.
In a nutshell, my own life is going fine but I still find myself desperate to get my M back on track. Do you see it being any different from Stuck's sitch bearing in mind that my W and I no longer live together or are the principles the same?
A week on Sunday is my W's birthday which happens to be Father's day too. It's my W's weekend with our son but I was toying with the idea of taking them both to lunch to celebrate both occasions. I'm very weary of having it look as though I'm pursuing but I just feel I'm not really getting the chance to communicate with my W at all any more since the only time we talk is in the 5 minutes or so it takes to pick up/drop off our son.
After my sessions with my DB coach I know that I should be working on a friendship with her but because of the lack of contact I am finding this difficult.
As far as I'm aware there is still no OM on the scene.
Any advice you can offer me would be most appreciated.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
