try to keep seeing the kids. those kids are hurting too. If they ask you hard questions just answer truthfully but without badmouthing your wife. I know its a bit upsetting but it does get better, and kids really get scared thinking you will never see them again... or lessen the contact to practically just a distant relative...
right now you have to just live your life and do what feels right but at the same time respectfully to your wife and the kids - she might not act respectful to you, but you dont need to act badly just bc she is. you'll always be proud later that you were kind and always polite/civil and kind.
its early days for her to notice anything as such yet - this can be along process. it doesnt mean you should give up all hope or anything. it just means you need to be patient but also very kind and patient TO YOURSELF...
in the end theres so little any of us can do, to convince someone else they are making a mistake. it really is their choice to decide.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
