and soz to disagree pup but yea I think distance makes all the diff - you CAN decide to discern to be more relaxed and patient if you know its not an "easy" fix for them to be together you can afford to give them time to 'end it', tearfully or not - as long as they DO. im not saying 'allow' anything. heck no - id demand it ended - what im saying tho, is to not drive yourself INSANE about the thought they might be still saying their sad goodbyes - have a bit of tolerence IF the wife has shown STRONG SIGNS of ending it and you know that. that is all
but ok no if this guy is prevalent in your life you better confront him; tell her you intend to; then do so. make demands. its completely disrespectful to you. its not right for you as a man and no you should not be putting up with anything or tolerating ANYTHING when there is so much room for contact. no one should ever put up with that... there is nothing but her word to go on and the word alone isnt enough when physical contact is easily had.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
