no offense Volley, but so is his R with his w...and his "withdrawal" from her and their toxic M, is killing him and his R's with the world and his future...
I mean, I take your point. But he needs to get through this and if it isn't at a time like this, I don't know when those things are best used AND he said it knocked him for a loop, not "I sure loved the feeling"...so, I think Kev is maxed out this week and needs to do what he needs to do.
Kev, consider yourself forewarned. Don't switch one weird problem for another.
You have choice. [b]Stay on track with the new Kev, and try to aim for 100 days of NOT expressing your need or wants to your wife. 100 days of not being needy but instead being strong, on your own feet, looking forward to your future and projecting an image of a GOOD CATCH! Start counting down tomorrow if you have to but you must go 3 months with her seeing the new you before you even think of ANYTHING ELSE but staying on track. (In 100 days you will have a much better idea of where this is going and what you need to do). If there is a chance with her,you have nothing at all to gain by pushing too fast and so much to gain by being slow and steady and making your changes real and permanent. Why on earth would you change tracks NOW when you are seeing flickers of respect from her? Don't change tracks now b/c you again lose patience. Remember how long it took you to get here with your M and the complacency, etc? And how long it will take her mother to NOT say a lousy thing about you that WILL influence your wife? Your wife needs lots of time to believe in any change you are making. Heck, don't we all? So take it slow and stay on track. [/b]
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