So, my point is that I think while being friendly etc, really developing your own self and being decisive can be very helpful. I suppose that is a no-brainer but I think you really emanating that shift in focus and detachment from her sexually can make a big difference. I don't feel like I'm articulating this well.
It was not H leaving that turned me on, it was him taking the responsibility for his happiness off of me. That's it.
