Why not?

[Thinker]

You think actions can surmount those horrible feelings I have related to detachment?

Yes. Actions make you feel better about yourself, plus you are actually improving things to boot.

I have a post-it on my computer that says "Stop Ruminating! Worry Less! Do More!"

I have felt like I am on Hs ride since our R started.

Yes, I can sense it in your posts. That's why am suggesting the analogies for you (the kayak, etc) - take charge of your own life.

I suppose if I think of myself as already D...I want my own place and my own life.

Your own life, your own place, and your own $.

Sounds like independence

Go get it!

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