How would you live if your life was a kayak (only one person in it - you - and you are responsible for your life)?
You are not stuck on his boat wondering how to get off.
You are in your own boat. Your life is yours. Pick up your paddle.
To take a method fro Smileysperson ("Just realize that you are already dead") - just realize that he is already gone from your life.
If he were completely gone, what would you be doing differently? What would you do to make life great for you (and for the kids you are towing )
Yes, he may suddenly look around someday and see what a great life you are having and want to come back, but that is a side-effect. Don't focus on that now.
So you need your own sources of money? Do you need a new job? Do you need new friends? to get out of the house more? to be healthier?
Now of all of that stuff you would have to do to make a great life, picture just the first step - the very first small step.
Now do that tomorrow!
You can do it!
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
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