Thanks puppy and yoyo...yes, I think you're both right and thank you for responding. It's kind of a high wire act. I don't even know at this point if I want him back as a husband, but I haven't shut the door on it either. This girl (she's 21 years younger than him) has stirred up all that dopamine crap. I'm sure he envisions a carefree life...I don't think he has visions of them getting married or anything...just an escape from real life. I do think my best course of action is exactly what you said yoyo...that's why I think it will be easier once he moves out. I don't hate him, he doesn't hate me. The "in love with you" stuff just went away. It's funny, he went ahead and got an apartment, but so far I'm the only one who has packed anything! I keep bringing boxes home for moving, LOL!

Today I did have a few rough moments. It's not easy and I don't want to pretend like it is. I've just come to a place where I know this has to happen.


Me:42
H:47
T:11 yrs
M:5 1/2 yrs
Death of my step daughter in July 2008
He began relationship with OW in August 2008
H will be moving out in next couple of weeks