Over the Shock and GALing 4

[Thinker]

I've tried flirting, but have not found where my W's boundary is (for me) between what she interprets as unacceptable pressure and what is just light fun.

I have to admit that I have also never developed a talent for the sort of light, "so ambiguous that it would be acceptable in an office or with a friends wife" style of flirting that this would take.

But...

Joking with her about the "Exotic Bikini Wax" that we saw on a spa treatment menu ("are you going to sign up for that one...")is OK and gets a smile.

Saying "Wow! you look really HOT tonight tonight" as she heads out the door is not OK and gets a distressed look of unhappiness.