Read your response on sandi's post. Yep you and I are definitely in the same boat. Have you tried lightly (very lightly) flirting with your W? Kind of just the playful flirting and not the "I want you in the bedroom now" kind of flirting.
My W's got low self-esteem so I was thinking of trying that next since we already are on a bit more stable ground. Just to plant the seeds of a R in her head.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.