he was back, i think

[PositivelyMommy]

Hey mdoodles, I wanted my M to work for a long time as well. But if you pull back and all he does is go to OW, then YOU HAVE YOUR ANSWER! You just don't want to accept it, that's all, and that is very understandable.

He cannot make up his mind to stay with you, for 2 years now. So the question you need to ask yourself, not him, is how much more of this are you going to take? Until all your hair turn gray? Until your frown lines are permanently etched on your forehead?

If you gave this man every oppty to come back to you and work on his M and he flees, then honey, he is not going to recommit anytime soon.

All I am saying is, give yourself a time limit. It can be a year, two years, three years. But whatever it is, give it to yourself and so a few years down the road, you KNEW that you gave it your all and you knew that you HAD a choice in this and don't regret your decision to stay in this M.

I gave myself till the end of this year just because I have my big 40th birthday then. I want to start afresh when I turn 40 and not have to answer to my H or his family anymore. I want to take possession of my life and my decisions and be rid of all the toxic energy. But that's me. You need to decide for yourself.

Good luck!