Life After the Affair

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Those friends you have when having an affair.....in some ways I know I need to let her go, but yet it doesn't seem like the right thing to do.

Yes you need to do it and yes, it's the right thing to do.

If you were a recovering alcoholic you would have to jettison your "friends" who enable you to be a drunk.

I'll bet quitting OM didn't feel right but you knew it was the right thing to do - and it was ... wasn't it?

I got a hang up phone call on Saturday. It prompted me to do a simple search of court records. Sure enough, my OM has a temporary restraining order on him marked domestic violence. I can't believe that was the man I risked my marriage with. I'm not sure who got the order on him...could be a roomate, his ex, a new gf.....man, I was such an idiot.

WhatDidIDo, change your number. Tell your husband about the call, have some respect for him and change your number - and get rid of your enabling friend. By being "friends" with her you are tacitly approving of her behaviour and rubbing it in your husband's face.

Let this parasite go and find another host.

Apologies if I come across as uncompromising and judgmental but tell me if I am factually incorrect.