In Utter Agony...Long 1st Post

[eternaloptimist]

This is probably against DB techniques but I always disagreed with my wife about how our kids would not be affected if we divorced. I would calmly say I do not agree with that, there are far too many studies that confirm that even with amical divorces the long term effects on kids can be significant.

I agree, I two have done this exact same thing. Yes, kids might "get over it" but they will never be as well off.

I agree too. There was a 25-year longitudinal study (sorry, I'm in academe) released on the long-term effects of children of divorce. Parents can move on and maybe make their lives better, but divorce is permanent for the kids. I brought this up in a MC session recently after our MC said that "kids are resilient and will bounce back."