H is clearly trying, but is clearly confused. He has ZERO clue of what to do.
Your reply to me that his IC said he has low self-esteem makes perfect sense and fits his actions, to be truthful.
I've already told you I was there once myself, so I'm speaking from experience rather than hypothetical theory.
Your H may be overwhelmed (I felt this way often) and so he's stuck or in "shut down" mode. Until he finds his love of himself, he'll be very lucky to get out of this situation on his own.
Will he consider going to IC again? He really, really, really seems to need it and it may be the only way he'll find himself.
As for not filing, I'm glad you spelled it out and I'm now firmly in the camp of you NOT filing. Instead, can you just "stay" where you are and "float" a bit?
