How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

What I'm suspecting is a deep emotional attachment -- a strong EA. To most women, that's even worse than a one-night-stand PA, but that's for you to decide. My point is that he may be using some self-drawn moral line to define whether or not he's "had an affair." If they didn't have INT together, but have exchanged passionate "ILYs" and "I'm not the same without you" e-mails, then I'm sorry, that's an emotional affair.

Have you read the book "NOT Just Friends," by Glass? It's the definitive work on EAs. Maybe your husband needs to read it as well.

Puppy

I haven't read that book, but I'll find it. I wish I had waited to see his reply to her email. That would have told me so much. Now I'll never know. I don't think he can admit to doing anything wrong b/c he has always been on a pedestal in his family and even in his own mind.

Thanks, Puppy. Somehow, I'll muster the courage to bring this up with him. Last night, he said, "I hope we're done with this now. I'm tired of talking about it. There is nothing else I can say to convince you. But I just know that tomorrow you are going to bring it up again. I can't take this!" So if I bring it up again, I guess I have to be ready for everything to be over...