Ok, that helps. Then just chill for a bit. Take care of you and cry all you want. Don't time how much you cry per day. Let it all out. But you have to pull yourself together when he's around or calls. Start there, start by being super and beautiful when he's around. Start being that confident sexy woman he fell in love with. If you don't feel like her right now, who cares? You will soon enough. And that's something I'm working on right now with you, we'll do it together. No more feeling sorry for ourselves....it's time to be sexy, solid and confident again. Do you really think this stupid OW is better than you? Do you know what she is? She's nothing...and I mean that in every sense of the word. She's not the best English speaker so he doesnt' have to much to impress her there...she's got none of the responsibility tied to her that you do. He doesn't "owe" her anything. He owes you so much and he's not feeling like he can repay that now or maybe ever, so it's easier to run away. And it's easier to run away if you are being so mean and so crazy and "I can't take her crap anymore". So stop it. Give him no reason to complain about you to anyone. I'm working on that too. Come on, this is me giving you my hand. Get up....walk with me.
