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Wow Karen...just stumbled upon your sitch. I am so sorry to hear everything you are going through. I was/am in a similar sitch regarding the kids. H hardly spent anytime with our daugter until right before we were going to go to mediation. Then he wanted her overnight, extra days, blah blah blah. But, he didn't contact me between visits, he wouldn't come see her during the week at my house or as her daycare. That's when I realized that he was doing it for show. Document EVERY minute he is with them. We went to mediation. I got everything I wanted. Then we went to court and he has her every other weekend. But, he isn't taking her everyother weekend. He even asked for 50/50 and told me flat out that it was because the CS would be reduced. Do NOT be afraid to speak up at the mediation. Ask for what you want and have valid reasons. I was smart enough to put in there that I wanted first right of refusal. Which means, if there is a time when he can't be with the children for any length of time, he has to call me and give me the opportunity to have them before he pawns them off on someone else or leaves them alone all day. Something to think about. If you have questions, come on over to newcomers and ask. I'll answer anything the best way I can. I am not a newbie. I've been here the same amount of time as you. H left me 6 weeks preg, moved in with OW (that he had known for 4 weeks) and her two boys, she paid for EVERYTHING, he got her preg when I was giving birth basically, he got fired in Dec, they had a son in March that looks NOTHING like H, he pays no CS even though he is ordered to and we are STILL going through this divorce. Should be done by end of the month.

Good luck to you and I hope your Kidney stone isn't too horrible.