another newcomer - thread #2

[JKL2009]

I think I might be getting too much credit, but it is true I basically don't initiate conversation about the R and only bring up stuff on the stuff she wants to do (house being sold, separation agreement) rarely when needed.

Give it time, 4 weeks is not too long and she is watching you closely, thinking. Try and see what you can pick up from your observations. Like was mentioned in my threads, you are now an Undercover DB Agent, and you have a mission. Don't worry about what is going on in the WAS brain, focus on yourself and your actions, and just observe and not the WAS actions. Start trying to see if there is a connection.

It has been about 8 weeks today into this for me, and I know this is going to be a 24 week or so process until she either files for divorce or we look into reconciling. Who knows what will happen, I am preparing for both (the paradox!) as best I can.