Cat, the D is already final, as of April 3rd. xW went ahead and filed after pulling out of negotiations to work out a property settlement and custody agreement.
Now, any time I mention her transgressing the spirit of our de facto agreement or mention her bad faith in working out these recurring differences, she gets all snide and tells me I have only myself to blame for not capitulating to her terms and signing her biased version of the separation agreement.
For too long she "gas-lighted" me into taking the blame for much of our M's failure, but thankfully I have had enough sense about me to refuse to accept her unfair versions of a separation and custody agreement. But now she is apparently going to try to make my life absolutely miserable for not giving her complete sway.
As for the disagreement we had at the bus stop yesterday: She sent me a follow-up email later in the day. She took the tone of saying she was "sorry" if I was confused and unable to understand what she meant. She claimed again that she was merely posing a possible change in plans, not an actuality. She's full of cr*p, as usual.
So she's now backpedaling and trying to make it sound like I am some idiot for actually taking her serious. Perhaps I am.
