Hello Hopeful
I'm talking about Divorce Remedy....have you not read it? If not, go get out and get it right now. It only takes ONE person to change a marriage and turn it around.
If you want to confront the other man, you're call. I still wouldn't bring her family into it. Again if it were me, I would have a fit to put it mildly because she does know what she's doing is wrong and that's why her family has no idea about it.
She may not quit her job right now, but if you fight for this the right way, she may.
And I agree, stay in her mind someway somehow, don't let her just do the "out of sight out of mind" crap.
But read the book, especially the part the Last Resort Technique