How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Ack...I hear you but I am trying to be rational with all of this and not think the worst. My H has always been faithful to me. He is a good person. Last night we talked for 2 hours about this "friendship." He insists that nothing happened and doesn't understand why I can't believe him! He gets so angry b/c I won't believe him and keeps saying that "I'm never going to forgive him, never going to stop bringing it up, and he can't live like that." He even told me to go have an affair to "level the playing field." I was like, "What?" If nothing happened between you two, why would you say that? What am I supposed to think? I'm so confused.

ITA with you about reporting the therapist. It's just a mess. She called me when I told her I was going to report her to the state licensing board. She started to say "I promise you that I have never done this before..." I cut her off and said "Don't promise me...promise all of your future clients." I just can't live with this, but H expects me to and now expects me to accept a possible divorce too? He keeps saying that he doesn't want to make the situation worse. I'm in a lose-lose situation and she gets to keep her "happy" marriage, her job and her family. Meanwhile, mine gets destroyed. Yeah, that's fair.