Well the trip in the car for 19 hrs was great and we had a good time for a couple days but we had a fight and it brought it all out in the open and we reverted to our old patterns and I bought a ticket and flew home early.
However.......for the first time she said she understood why I was so angry and really really forgave me and asked for my forgiveness. SHe said she really does want to work on the marriage.
Now I am torn. How can we work on the marriage when we are so far apart. She says I was right and that she needs to actually face emotions with me rather than repress as she normally does....but she has been so mean to me in the past and I don't know if she will change that.