How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

And I think she needs to lose her job. Isn't a therapist having an affair with a client, like a teacher/student or doctor/patient--100% inappropriate???

I totally agree with you. She broke several professional ethis for the social work profession. But H says that will lead to no good b/c he'll get dragged into it somehow. H says that if I report her, we are done. H was the one who "started" it by asking her to keep in contact, setting up a private gmail account to secretly communicate with her. He feels guilty even though he is adamant that it was just a friendship, not even an EA. But, it was the therapist's JOB to keep those boundaries. They both knew it was wrong b/c H had a "dream" that she was going to get into trouble over it. That was even in her email to him. Just last night again he denied any physical contact with her other than a handshake. I confronted her in public and she said it was just a friendship too. What a slap in the face to me. A woman who is married doesn't write an email to a former client saying that "you are a gift and I'm so glad that you came into my life. I feel happier, lighter, and brighter when I'm with you. My heart aches when I'm not with you." Blah, blah, blah.

I'm in such agony. I wonder if the client's name has to be kept confidential though in any investigation. If so, H might not have any backlash.